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Christmas Self Care For Mums
The festive season is merry and bright, but it's also chaotic, overwhelming and exhausting - especially as a mum. It's crucial to carve out moments for self care and relaxation during the holidays, even if it might just feel like another thing you have to add to your to-do list. It needs to be a priority if you want to enjoy the festive season. So, let’s jingle all the way to a more relaxed and joyous Christmas with these self-care tips for mums!

Embrace Imperfection
The holidays are hectic, social media is bombarded with picture perfect festive homes, a million and one so called "traditions" and it's too much. It's time to embrace imperfection, your tree might not look like the ones on the Hallmark channel, and your dinner might not be a 5 star feast, but that's all ok - that's realistic! What matters the most is joy and spending time with people you love.

Prioritise Time For Yourself
Amongst the wrapping and the shopping, the baking and the decorating - schedule some you-time. Whether it's a hot bubble bath, an extravagant hot drink with a book, whatever makes your soul happy. Make it a regular thing over the next month or so, just think, your children, your partners, other people are doing it, really embracing the festive period, and so should you be!

Christmas Self Care For Mums

Set Boundaries
It's so easy to get swept up in obligations during this month. Remember, it's always ok to say no. Protect your time, your energy and your sanity by setting boundaries. Your mental well-being is just as important as spreading holiday cheer!

Delegate and Collaborate
You don't have to do everything alone! Involve the family in holiday preparation. Let your little ones decorate cookies, let your partner help with wrapping gifts! It's a chance to bond too, and share the workload. CHRISTMAS IS NOT JUST DOWN TO THE MUMS TO SORT.

Practice Mindfulness
Take moments to practice mindfulness, notice the little things. Whether it's through meditation, deep breathing or just simply take a minute to appreciate the beautiful twinkling Christmas lights. Mindfulness helps ground you in the present. Savour Simple Joys As mentioned above, find joy in the little things. The scent of freshly baked gingerbread, a heartfelt conversation or the warmth of a cosy blanket. These small moments can bring immense happiness, if you just stop and notice them.

Christmas Self Care For Mums

Get Creative with Self-Care
Self care isn't just about spa sessions. Get creative! Write in a journal, indulge in a DIY project or lose yourself in a good book. It's all about doing what rejuvenates you personally.

Connect with Other Mums
Reach out to fellow mums. Share experiences, laughter and struggles. Connecting with other people who actually understand the holiday chaos can provide so much comfort and support. It'll feel like a weight off your shoulders.

Remember these ideas are not a to-do list, but a gentle nudge to prioritise your wellbeing during the Christmas period. As a mum, it's automatic, it's natural to put others first, but taking care of yourself allows you to care for others better. This holiday season, relax, cherish the little moments and nurture your wellbeing. You deserve it!

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avoid Christmas overwhelm stress
I've recently re watched Bad Moms Christmas, and even though it's utterly cringey, it's great and just like the first movie, it's actually pretty relatable! It's all about how we all have these high expectations or extraordinary promises and traditions to live up to, and let's be frank here - as mums, we are expected to do a lot at Christmas - and Christmas overwhelm sucks.

Not just mums, but parents in general put so much pressure on themselves, to give their children the 'perfect' Christmas each year, and it's utterly exhausting. With the popularity of social media nowadays, the pressure is more than it used to be even a few years ago! We're expected to decorate our entire homes, welcome the elf onto our shelves, desperately trying to ensure the season is magical for your children, search and overspend on matching family Christmas pyjamas, plan and overspend on gifts for everyone we know, wrap every single gift (beautifully and expertly I might add!), write 1000 cards which includes your child's friends as they unenthusiastically give up after 5, ensure your children occupy every waking minute with some sort of Christmas themed activity, planning the Christmas food, buying the Christmas food, desperately trying to find space to put away the Christmas food - the list is absolutely endless.

I don't want you to get me wrong, I'm no Grinch! I love everything about Christmas, but the weeks building up to it, there just constantly seems to be 100 things you need to do every day!

So today I wanted to share with you a few suggestions, to ensure you don't completely overwhelm yourself or put too much pressure on yourself this year, so you actually can enjoy the festive season yourself!

Ditch Traditions You Don't Enjoy
Many of the traditions we do with our family are actually ones we used to do when we were children! Some were really special and you continue to do them with your children, and that's ok if you all have fun doing it - like leaving a mince pie and a glass of milk out for Father Christmas (I used to love waking up on Christmas morning and rushing into the kitchen to see if he had eaten it!) So I do repeat this tradition with my children! However, when I was little I used to wake up on Christmas morning, drag my stocking from the end of my bed and hop into my parents' bed to unwrap it all! I absolutely loved it at the time, but this is something that just doesn't work for us as a family, so we simply don't do it! (My children do not stay in their beds, so it wouldn't work!). What I'm trying to say is, you absolutely do not have to repeat traditions just because you did them when you were little. Do what works for your family. 

Other traditions you can ditch are ones that cost too much for your budget! If it stresses you out spending too much on it each year, don't do it! Buying new matching pyjamas each year is absolutely lovely don't get me wrong, if you can afford it. If you can't afford to visit an extravagant Santa experience every year, don't do it! 

Lastly, ditch the traditions that stress you out! If you absolutely dread doing a particular tradition each year, don't pressure yourself to do it! If you hate having to come up with ideas for the Elf on the Shelf each night, and having to clean it up again in the morning - say bye bye to him! If you hate having to write 1000 Christmas cards, don't do it! Don't pressure yourself to do absolutely everything each year.

Create New Traditions You Love
Now you've decided which traditions you don't love, why not make some new traditions that fit your family. Remember that you are an adult, you are the parent. You can do what you want over the holidays. If you don't want a big roast dinner, don't cook it! If you don't want to go anywhere for Christmas, stay at home! If it's what you want, then go for it. Talk to your close family members and decide what are your favourite parts of Christmas, or what they'd like to do instead. Create your own traditions, it'll make them that much more special and everyone will look forward to them!

avoid christmas overwhelm stress

Stick To A Budget
Back to the point of not overstretching your budget. If you find yourself spending too much on gifts, plan and stick to a budget. Don't go on a massive shopping spree to buy everyone's gifts, have a think about what sort of things each person might like and ensure you have a budget in mind per person. Me personally, I have a certain amount I spend on my children, another amount for my husband, another amount for my parents, another amount for my siblings etc. I do it every year and it helps to know exactly what I have to spend. 

Allocate Jobs
Just remember, just because you're the mum, doesn't mean you physically have to do it all yourself. Allocate jobs for other family members to do (my husband cooks the Christmas dinner every year), if your children can write their cards, leave them to it, let someone else pick up the food shop, accept that invitation for Christmas dinner at someone else's house this year! Let and encourage others to help you out!

avoid christmas overwhelm stress

Stop Trying To Be Perfect
So you didn't create the perfect festive outdoor display? You didn't pick the most extravagant or expensive gift, but went with a classic you know the recipient will like? You didn't buy toy/book advent calendars and stuck to good old Cadbury? Perhaps you didn't hand make reindeer food or get your children to decorate Christmas cards? Does any of it really matter? I know, looking at social media it seems everyone else has got their act together apart from you, but that's simply not true. We all like to portray to others that we can do it all, make everything perfect for Christmas but we can't, and we don't. Let go of that perfect Christmas idea, put things into perspective. Give yourself a break and enjoy the moment with your loved ones.

Schedule Time For YOU
Speaking of giving yourself a break, make sure you make time for you, no matter what it takes. Tell your partner what you are doing and when so you won't forget, schedule it in your diary if needs be! (I do, there's no shame in it! It's far more likely to get done that way!) You deserve time out to rest, recharge, eat Christmas chocolate and binge watch festive movies if that's what you fancy. How can you feel Christmassy or be able to spread Christmas cheer if you're totally knackered? Take care of you!

I guess the main things to take from this post are, make it work for you all as a family, it doesn't have to be perfect, nobody is perfect, and lastly, make yourself a priority too!

Wishing you a very Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year! xx

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How To Stop Halloween Being So Stressful For A Mum

Halloween is a time for spooky fun and tasty treats, dressing up, spending time with friends and family - but, especially nowadays, it can also become a stressful time for mums.

The pressure is on us again, to make perfect costumes (either by spending a fortune or creating by hand!) to trying to keep up with the latest trends such as Boo Baskets!

It's so easy to get caught up in it all, and then feel guilty if we don't succeed. But it needs to change. Let's embrace the fun of Halloween without the stress, the overspending and mainly, the guilt!

Ditch the Costume Madness

The pressure to create or purchase extravagant, perfect, lifelike costumes for you and your family is one of the most common causes of Halloween stresses!

It can be extremely time consuming, extremely expensive and I need to remind you that it's perfectly ok to choose convenience over complexity. It's ok to buy supermarket costumes, it's ok to reuse costumes you already own, it's ok to borrow costumes, it's ok to not buy a costume at all!

Embrace Simplicity and Budget-Friendly Options

The Halloween industry has boomed over the years (even more so than Valentines Day now I think!) with 'trendy' items, elaborate decorations, fancy gift baskets for kids and partners, expensive days out that people are now calling a "family tradition", I'm talking to you, pumpkin patches. Haha.

It's so easy to fall into the trap and feel like you need to keep up with all of these trends. However it's important to remember that simplicity can be just as enjoyable. Instead of overspending on novelty "traditions", opt for budget friendly alternatives.

Often it's the simple traditions like carving pumpkins or wrapping up cosy watching Halloween movies together that create the most memorable memories!

How To Stop Halloween Being So Stressful For A Mum

Let Go of Pinterest-Perfect Expectations

Social media, particularly Pinterest and Instagram can make it feel like everyone else is having these perfect, movie worthy extravagant Halloween moments, but it's so important to remember IT'S NOT REAL.

These images are highlights and not reality. I remember feeling the same over the Summer, when everyone was posting images of expensive holidays abroad and it felt like everyone was going away, but that just wasn't true at all. A tiny slither of people who I follow were going away, and everyone else was struggling with money, just like us. I feel like social media promotes these fancy photos on purpose to make you feel like crap!!

It's so important to let go of the pressure to create a social media worthy Halloween and embrace your life, your family. Your children will appreciate your presence and excitement more than perfectly staged photos. (Honestly, kids hate it most of the time! Haha)

Halloween Is About Fun, Not Perfection

Halloween is about fun, and creating memories. It's not about perfection or trying to impress your followers, or your neighbours! Don't feel pressure to decorate your home elaborately or keep up with every trend, just to have something to post about!

Instead focus on what makes you and your family happy! Whether it's carving your pumpkins together or watching Hocus Pocus!

How To Stop Halloween Being So Stressful For A Mum

Make Halloween about the experience not about the aesthetics.

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Fall-ing in Love with Yourself This Autumn

Autumn, with its crisp air and vibrant colours, offers the perfect backdrop for a season of self-love and self-care. As a busy mum, it's easy to put your own needs on the back burner, but this Autumn, let's change that. Embrace the changing leaves and cooler temperatures as an invitation to prioritise yourself. 

The Importance of Self-Care in Autumn

Motherhood is a full-time job, and it's easy to neglect your own well-being while caring for others. However, taking time for yourself isn't selfish; it's necessary for maintaining your physical and mental health.

As the days get shorter and the weather cooler, many mums experience a shift in mood and energy levels. Seasonal changes can affect our well-being, making it even more important to focus on self-care in Autumn.

Cosy Nights In

Fall-ing in Love with Yourself This Autumn

Create a Cosy Sanctuary

Transform your home into a warm and inviting space. Add soft blankets, plush pillows, and scented candles to create a soothing atmosphere for relaxing and snuggling.

Autumn Reading List

Curl up with a good book. Choose a book that nourishes your soul or transports you to a different world. Reading can be a wonderful form of self-care in autumn.

Movie Night

Plan a movie night with your favourite autumn-themed films. Pair it with a bowl of popcorn and a cosy blanket for the ultimate relaxation.

Warm Drinks

Brew a cup of your favourite herbal tea or indulge in a pumpkin spice latte. Sipping a warm beverage can be incredibly comforting and part of your autumn routine.

Seasonal Self-Pampering

Fall-ing in Love with Yourself This Autumn

Pumpkin Spice Beauty Routine

Incorporate pumpkin-infused skincare products into your routine. Pumpkin is rich in vitamins and antioxidants that can rejuvenate your skin, enhancing your fall self-care regimen.

Nature Walks

Take advantage of the stunning fall foliage by going for nature walks. The combination of fresh air and the beauty of autumn can be incredibly invigorating for your mind.

Fall-Inspired DIY Spa Night

Create your own spa night with homemade face masks and scrubs using seasonal ingredients like cinnamon, honey, and oats. 

Savor the Aromas

Fill your space with autumn scents using essential oils. Scents like cinnamon, orange, and clove can evoke feelings of warmth and comfort, enhancing your autumn self-care routine.

Journaling by the Fire

If you have a fireplace, light it up and spend some quiet time journaling. Reflect on your thoughts, goals, and gratitude.

Prioritise Your Well-Being

Fall-ing in Love with Yourself This Autumn

Self-care isn't a one-size-fits-all concept. It's about finding what works for you and making it a regular part of your routine. As a busy mum, it's easy to feel guilty about taking time for yourself, but remember that by nurturing your well-being, you're better equipped to care for your loved ones.

Autumn offers a beautiful opportunity for busy mums to fall in love with yourself again. By embracing cosy nights in and seasonal self-pampering, you can nourish your body and soul, ensuring you're ready to tackle the demands of motherhood with renewed energy and a refreshed spirit. 

So, this Autumn, make self-care a priority, and watch as you bloom alongside the changing leaves.

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Fall-ing in Love with Yourself This Autumn - Self Care Tips For Mums In Autumn

Thoughtful Self Care Gifts for Mums

Motherhood is an incredible, yet utterly exhausting journey that often leaves little room for self-care and time for yourself. As a mum, it's easy to get caught up in your day to day life, but it's crucial to remember that self-care is not a luxury—it's a necessity.

Why Self-Care Matters for Mums

Before we delve into self-care gift ideas, let's understand why self-care is so essential for mums:

Physical and Mental Well-Being
Taking care of your physical and mental health is vital. Self-care helps reduce stress, improves mood, and boosts overall well-being.

Quality Family Time
When you're well-rested and rejuvenated, you can give your family the best version of yourself. Self-care enables you to be more present and engaged with your loved ones.

Setting a Positive Example
Teaching your children about the importance of looking after yourself, prioritising yourself, is a valuable life lesson. By prioritising self-care, you show them the importance of self-love and self-respect.

Thoughtful Self Care Gifts for Mums

Thoughtful Self-Care Gift Ideas for Mums

Time Alone

One of the most precious gifts you can give a mum is time alone. Offer to watch the kids or handle household chores, allowing her to have uninterrupted "me-time." If you are a friend or loved one, you could even offer a 'babysitting voucher' or similar.

A Relaxing Bath

Create a spa-like experience with scented candles, bath salts, and a plush robe. A soothing bath can be a fantastic way for mums to unwind.

Personalised Self-Care Coupons

Design homemade coupons that offer various self-care services like a massage, a day off from cooking, or a peaceful evening to read a book.

Journaling Supplies

Encourage self-reflection with a beautiful journal and a set of colourful pens. Journaling can be therapeutic and help mums process their thoughts and emotions.

Thoughtful Self Care Gifts for Mums

Yoga or Meditation Classes

Consider gifting a subscription to online yoga or meditation classes. These practices promote relaxation, mindfulness, and physical well-being.

Art and Craft Supplies

If she enjoys creativity, provide art supplies like paints, sketchbooks, or knitting kits. Engaging in artistic hobbies can be an amazing form of self-expression and relaxation.

Gift Cards for Her Favourite Activities

Whether it's for a favourite restaurant, spa, or bookstore, gift cards allow mums to choose how they want to treat themselves.

A Heartfelt Letter

Sometimes, a heartfelt letter expressing your appreciation and love can be the most meaningful self-care gift of all.

The Perfect Self-Care Companion: Whimsical Mama Box

Thoughtful Self Care Gifts for Mums

Whimsical Mama Box, a brand committed to celebrating and supporting mums on their self-care journeys. Whimsical Mama Box offers a curated selection of self-care essentials tailored to the unique needs of mothers. From soothing bath products to inspirational journals, each Whimsical Mama Box is designed to bring comfort, relaxation, and moments of self-indulgence into the lives of busy mums. Visit the Whimsical Mama Box website to explore our thoughtfully crafted self-care boxes and discover how you can make self-care an integral part of your motherhood experience.
Remember, self-care isn't a luxury; it's a gift you can give yourself every day.

As a mum, you deserve moments of relaxation, reflection, and rejuvenation. So, whether you're considering these thoughtful gift ideas for yourself or someone you love, the key is to prioritise self-care as an essential part of motherhood.

Incorporate self-care into your daily routine, cherish the moments of solitude, and accept that taking care of yourself is not selfish—it's a beautiful act of self-love. Embrace the time for yourself, and you'll find that it can transform your life as a mum, making you even more capable of giving love and care to your family.

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9 Thoughtful Self Care Gifts For Mums

Incorporating Exercise Into Your Busy Mum Life

The role of motherhood can feel like there is very little room left for self care, let alone exercise. However, incorporating exercise into your life not only benefits your physical health but also your mental well-being.

Physical activity triggers the release of endorphins, our natural mood lifters which can help reduce stress, anxiety and improve your overall mental state.

But what if you don't have time for exercise, or truthfully you detest every type of exercise you've tried, and it feels more like torture?! Trust me, preaching to the choir here. I am NOT a sporty person, I am a lazy, cosy, stay at home person. I used to force myself to try exercise video, weight lifting videos, Zumba - and it felt SO forced, I hated it. But then I found running, something that I did actually enjoy. Yes, it's still tough, and some days I really can't be bothered - but the feeling when the endorphins hit, when you've won the challenge or goal you set yourself, the feeling is like nothing else!

Elevating Mood and Reducing Stress
Exercise is a natural stress reliever by promoting endorphins and reducing cortisol level - and as a mum, our stress levels can be so up and down! Regular physical activity offers a healthy outlet for stress. Personally, when I go for a run, it's my time to just absolutely zone out. Blast my music and not have to think about anything at all, besides the very next step. It's honestly become a really important part of my life.

Boosting Self-Confidence
The sense of accomplishment that comes from completing a workout can significantly boost self-confidence. If you are a mum who sometimes struggles having to juggle everything - achieving your personal fitness goals are an amazing reminder for just how capable, resilient and strong you really are!

Incorporating Exercise Into Your Busy Mum Life

Enhancing Mental Clarity
Physical activity increases blood flow to the brown, which can enhance cognitive function and mental clarity, which is hugely valuable for mums who need to make quick decisions and stay organised throughout the day. Perhaps this is why many people like to exercise right at the beginning of their day?

Incorporating Exercise into a Busy Mum Life
Again, it can feel like exercise is just another thing you don't have time for, but I've said it before and I'll say it again - make yourself a priority.

Start with achievable goals, such as a 15 minute exercise video on Youtube or a lunchtime walk, perhaps every other day? It doesn't have to be an intense workout, you just have to figure out what works for you, and your family - and what you enjoy!

Consistency is far far more important, than intensity. So instead of aiming for lengthy workouts, focus on short, frequent exercises that can easily fit into your day. Try and stick to it for a week, then 2 weeks and see how you feel.

Incorporating Exercise Into Your Busy Mum Life

Involve Your Children
Personally, this doesn't work for me as I like my time alone, however it's different for everyone. Why not try and incorporate your children into your exercise routine? Go for long family walks or bike rides, play active games in the park or try exercise videos together. One thing I've always wanted to do when my children were babies, was to buy a running pushchair and take them with me! 

Incorporating exercise into your life is more than just physical activity, it's an investment in your overall wellbeing, plus you are being an amazing role model to your children!

Have you found an exercise you love yet?

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Parenting & Self Care - Balancing Your Needs with Your Childs
Being a parent is the most wonderful, rewarding thing - but it also demands a huge amount of love, sacrifice and dedication. As mums we often find ourselves with a million and one responsibilities, an overflowing to-do list of what we 'should' be doing - trying to cater to our little ones every needs, but accidentally neglecting our own needs. Neglecting our own needs, time for ourselves and self care can lead to burnout, overwhelm and stress, not to mention losing the ability to be the best mum we can be.

I wanted to talk about today, the importance of self care for mums, and how to find balance between caring for yourself and caring for your children.

You know on airplanes how you are reminded to put on your own oxygen mask before helping anyone else - this exact same principle applies to parenting. The very repeated here saying 'You can't pour from an empty cup'! When you prioritise yourself, you become a better parent. A less stressed, more relaxed, more fun parent. Your mental, emotional and physical wellbeing directly impacts your children, and your parenting skills! It also sets a positive example for your children - taking care of yourself too, makes you an amazing role model for your children. 

How To Fit Self Care Into Your Daily Life

Parenting & Self Care - Balancing Your Needs with Your Childs

Self care doesn't always mean hot bubble baths, spa days or mini breaks. It can be as simple as reading a book, taking time out to exercise or working on a hobby. Whatever makes you feel good, whatever rejuvenates your soul - there is no right way to do this, we are all different.

Time is precious, particularly when you feel like you have very little of it spare. Perhaps having a set routine, or allocate specific times during the week/day just for you, treat them as non negotiable! An hour each night, a day each week - whatever suits you, but remember - they are not negotiable.

Personally I am a huge fan of routines. Morning routines, evening routines, weekly routines, work routines - you name it. Why not try adding a few quick self care items scattered throughout your day. A morning workout, reading during meal times, a warm shower and skincare before bed. A couple of little regular touches throughout your day can make a world of difference! No one ever said self care had to take forever. 

Balancing Self Care & Parenting

Parenting & Self Care - Balancing Your Needs with Your Childs

You might not have hours to spare, but it's important to make the most of the time you do have. Spend quality time with your little ones as often as you can, focusing on quality time over quantity. Have a meaningful discussion at breakfast time, or set some time to play with them before dinner. This not only fills their emotional needs but it helps to create a stronger bond between you, too. 

As mentioned above, if your little ones see you prioritising yourself, prioritising self care - they learn that it's essential to take care of yourself - you are sharing a huge life lesson with them!

Lastly, unless you feel strictly that your self care is just for you - why not let your little ones get involved too? (Personally, when I go for a run, that is my ME time. Just for me. Time to zone out, and I don't want anyone else there, and that's perfectly fine!) But if you feel your children could be a part of some age-appropriate self care activities, that's amazing too! Maybe having a pamper session, trying yoga together or going for a peaceful walk. 

Little Reminder
Let's just clarify one thing - you are doing your best. Parenting is not a race, or a challenge, it's a journey - there's a lot of things you learn along the way, learn by doing.

So embrace your imperfections, celebrate your successes, and remember - you deserve the love, care and compassion you give to others. 

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Parenting & Self Care - how to balance your needs with your childs